Keep Your Cool- Anger

"Anyone can become angry that's easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way- that is not easy," taught Aristotle. With all the stress and pressure in our lives, it is easy to loose our cool at the slightest irritation. While we are rushing home from work at the end of another exhausting day, we scream at the slow driver in front of us who apparently has all the time in the world. While we stop at the grocery store, we get annoyed with the the stock clerk who sends us to the wrong aisle when we are in search of the ingredients for tonight's lasagna. And while we are eating dinner, we yell at the telemarketer who has the nerves to interrupts is in an attempt to sell us their latest wares.
The problem with loosing your temper on daily basis is that is becomes a habit. And like most habits, a time arrives when it becomes second nature. Personal relationships start unraveling, business partnerships begin to fall apart and your credibility decreases as you become known as "a loose cannon." Effective people are consistent and, in many way, predictable. Tough times call for cool people and they are always cool and calm when the pressure is on. Keeping your cool in a moment of crisis can save you years of pain and anguish. Hurtful words unleashed in a single minute of anger have led to many broken relationships. Words are like arrows: once released, they are impossible to retrieve. So choose yours with care.
An excellent way to control your temper is simply to count to 100 before you respond to someone who has irritated you. Another strategy to use is what I call the Three Gate Test. The ancient sages would only speak if the words they were about to utter passed three gates. At the first gate, they asked themselves, Are these words truthful? If so, the words could then pass on the second gate. At the second gate, the sages asked, Are these words necessary? If so, they would pass on the third gate, where they would ask, Are these words kind? If so, then only would they leave their lips and be sent out into the world. "Treat people as they were what they ought to be and help them become what they are capable of being," said the German poet Johann Wolfgang van Goethe. These are wise words to live by.

- Robin Sharma
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